White women looking for black men

In particular, I wondered what was up with all the couples comprising black men and white women. It seemed so predominant and a cause for concern. Now, census figures prove what I and many other black women in the united states -- single or married -- had figured out: Many black men here are not dating or marrying black women. Add that to the fact that men of other races don't seem interested in black women, either, and it's downright scary!
A front-page story in last Sunday's Star Tribune said "blacks and Asians in Minnesota are much likelier than their counterparts nationally to marry outside their own race."
No kidding!
The census data involving blacks is the most startling: Among married black men in Minnesota, 44 percent have wives who are not black; among married black women in the state, 14 percent have husbands who are not black. Nationally, the figures are 7 percent for men and 3 percent for women. So again I ask, what's up with this? If 44 percent of married black men in Minnesota are going over to the white side, compared with only 14 percent of married black women, what does this mean?
It means a lot of lonely weekends for a lot of black women.

As I said in the previous column, I am not opposed to interracial dating and marriage. Not at all. But only if people date for the right reasons: compatibility, attraction, similar interests -- the reasons you would date anyone. But I've met quite a few black men -- and some white women -- who date only outside their race.

What's that about? Does it mean a kind of self-hatred, a discomfort around people who look like you? It seems fairly obvious that some brothers are looking only for a trophy, a hey-look-at-what-I've-got date. And my white sisters may be still acting out a rebelliousness that should have gone by the wayside in their teens, an in-your-face-mom-and-dad-and-society attitude.

But the census figures raise the question: Why is the interracial marriage scenario in Minnesota so one-sided? There are more women than men in the United States -- in the world, for that matter. So there is really no necessity for white men to deliberately seek out black women. Even after the married brothers -- 44 percent, remember -- have made a dent in the white female population, there are still plenty of white women to choose from.
That leaves a lot of black women alone.
It also explains the malevolent stares that couples made up of black men and white women sometimes receive from black women. That's not right; these couples may be together for all the right reasons, but it is understandable.

Brothers who date exclusively outside their race often justify their actions by saying black women are difficult, indifferent and hard to get along with. Did they ever stop to think it's a chicken-and-egg situation? Which came first, black women's supposed difficulty, or their often shabby treatment by black men who should cherish them?

Response from Dixe:
I live in Minnesota and i know why this is. There are many sides to this. White woman tend to be extra nurturing. Meaning some like to pay for bills for men and all kinds of crazy stuff. I know a few black woman so now i am not speaking for all of them but alot of the men here have dogged out the black woman and they are like forget it i wont deal with your crap. So since this is the case they go over to the white woman who put up with everything under the sun. Now again not all white woman are like this.

However the article wasn't completely true the ratio of black woman dating white woman is huge in fact its as common as black men with white woman if not more common so this article is completely inaccurate.
A lot of good white woman find it hard to find the good black men. In fact i find it easier to date men who are not from here originally. I will not date black men who have lived in Minnesota all of there lives as they have no clue how to treat a woman.